As we grow, we tend to spend most of the time for Vitamin-M (Money). It’s necessary but not sufficient for living a good life. 

We need Vitamin-N (Nature) too. Each morning, get some sunlight. Walk barefoot on grass. Build hobbies that help you stay close to nature (e.g. photography or hiking). Sit in the balcony and hear birds chirping in the morning. Watch monsoon clouds passing by. Chase a good sunset. Plant a tree (or a sapling). Care for a pet. 

This becomes important in today’s world where natural spaces are being encroached by urban developments – and we are spending most of our time in curated spaces that has a lot of style but very little substance. 

Nature provides us with substance.

How about replacing or matching your “screen” time with “green time”?

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When we make a promise to someone else, we are more likely to keep it. 

But what about promises that we make to ourselves?

The easiest person to take for granted is your own self. We have a tendency to put our plans on a backseat the moment someone else out there starts expecting us to do something. We have been taught that it is selfish to prioritize ourselves. It’s not.

That needs to change, IF you want to chart your own unique path.

Because constantly working on expectations of others makes you mediocre. It’s important to serve others and while you are doing it, be selfless.

Greatness comes from working on YOUR own priorities. When you work on your own priorities (whether it’s your health, well being, projects, career etc), be selfish. That’s when you can bring your real self into the game. 

That’s when you differentiate. 

That’s how you thrive. 

P.S: This is as much a note to the self as much as a note to you.

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Stuck in something that you are not able to solve?

Take a break. Step away. Take a walk. Listen to your favorite song. Talk to someone about something different. Take a nap. 

When we step away to a place of calm, our sub-conscious mind builds perspective. It enables you to view the situation/problem through an different lens. 

That often leads to a breakthrough, a solution, a response. 

When in doubt, step out!

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“I am not good at that” is a language of victim. 

If it is your choice to not be good at something, say “It have chosen not to invest my time learning it.”

If you intend to get better at something you are not good at, you can say “I am not good at that yet.”

“Yet” changes everything. It changes your posture towards the possibility that you can be great someday. 

Using proactive language may make an impact on others, but more importantly, it changes the way you approach things. 

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Great Opportunities never knock the door or come with an announcement. When they come, they are hardly recognizable. 

That’s because they usually come dressed as “problems”. 

When we see problems as problems, we dread them. 

We we see problems as opportunities, we solve them. 

Next time you face a problem, ask, “Is this an opportunity in guise of a problem?”

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“Your enjoyment of travel is inversely proportional to the size of your luggage” – Kevin Kelly

I had to unlearn the habit of packing stuff that I would never use during the travel. I now pack the minimum I require to travel. 

In life as in travel, knowing how much you “really” need is everything.

We go through life with excess baggage of unnecessary emotions, thoughts, anxieties and dreams that are not truly ours. Then we feel burdened as we travel through our days.

Pack only as much as you need. Then enjoy the sojourn.  

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Choices that work for others may not work for you. 

Someone opts to learn Biology. Someone chooses Arts. Someone drops out to start a business. 

These are just “different” choices, not “right or wrong” choices. 

If people are unique, how can their choices be similar? What works for others may simply not work for you. 

Understanding this is a sign of maturity. 

Only then, you can play your unique game. Only then, you can truluy differentiate yourself. 

Yes?

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The world we live in rewards the “appearance of success”.

You gain attention by driving a fancy car, even when the car is 100% financed. Appearance matters more, not the substance. Same is true for someone who has a fancy designation, even when he/she does not love the job. They pull on because that is what they think is valued by others. 

Living a life to simply “appear successful” is a treadmill that we need to get off. True wealth is simplicity.

N. R. Narayan Murthy, the founder of Infosys drove a Maruti 800 to office when many of his employees drove fancy and expensive cars. NRN once said that my job is to create wealth for others, not appear wealthy. Warren Buffet is known for being the richest man with a rather humble lifestyle. 

Real success and wealth are silent. 

But how do you find independence from such a sticky and invisible treadmill of living to other’s expectation?

Two things come to mind immediately:

1) Do the work you love for the cause that you care for. Sure, it takes time and experimentation to find the work you truly love but it’s worth the effort. Doing work that you don’t enjoy drains you. 

2) Live below your means: Real indepence from the treadmill of appearing successful is to live a modest life. People take expensive loans to buy things they don’t need to impress people who don’t care using money they don’t really have. What’s the point? Enjoy the fruits of your labor, but always be mindful that you save/invest enough before you spend. 

If you can do the work you love and learn to spend less than you make, you’ll be okay. You won’t appear successful, but who said success is about appearance?

Success is about balance, remember?

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