“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.” – Robin Williams
Be careful about who you choose to spend your time with!
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What Actions Say!
The other day, we met someone and the conversation started around diet and nutrition.
He shared with us that since he is a diabetic, he has stopped eating Wheat and Rice completely. We took a casual note of this without paying much attention.
The next day, he shared an Instagram reel of eating a loaded burger. A few days later, he was seen relishing some other unhealthy stuff.
That is how people are. Their actions are far away from the ideals they describe in their words.
Therefore, when you want to judge people, pay little attention to what they “say” and more attention to what they “do”.
For actions, they speak way louder than words.
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Don’t Waste Your Words
Don’t waste your words explaining things to someone who is:
a) Not capable of understanding
b) Not willing to understand
That is a waste of your energy. If someone is not capable of understanding your point of view, you can still explain, teach, clarify and educate.
But if someone is not willing to understand, that is a problem of intention.
Save yourself by not explaining.
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“Have to” to “Get to”
“I have to study” seems like a complain. It speaks of a compulsion.
“I get to study” seems like gratitude. That you get to study in a world where so many kids don’t have the privilege of going to a school.
Replace “I have to…” with “I get to…” and your mindset about your work, family, health, relationships, money, experiences etc. will change.
When you change your language, it shifts your perspective for better.
With change in perspective, we think, do and feel different.
It’s magical.
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Listening with an Open Mind
Here’s a profound quote that highlights the importance of listening with an open mind.
“To listen is to lean in, softly, with a willingness to be changed by what we hear.” – Mark Nepo
Like a windshield, our preconceived notions, beliefs and judgments can block the essence of what other person is trying to say.
When we listen with a closed mind, we absorb only what we think we should know
When we listen with an open mind, we absorb the essence of what other person is saying.
Next time you are in a conversation, listen intentionally. Listening is an art that builds our connection with others.
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The Angry Boat
This is a timeless wisdom on how to handle situations involving anger in relationships.
A rule that I have personally followed for so many year (and it has helped me immensely at work and in life) is this: “There can be only one person in the angry boat.”
Anger as a response to anger escalates conflict. Calm in the face of anger is a step forward in resolving it.
Mahatma Gandhi got it right: “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.”
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You are what you read and who you meet
I can tell this from my experience:
What you become eventually is a result books you read, stories you consume and people you meet.
That’s because all of the above helps you broaden your awareness.
Awareness helps us choose better.
Choices we make, end up making us.
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Deciding and Doing
There is a HUGE difference between deciding to do something and actually doing it.
Consider this riddle:
5 frogs are sitting on a log of wood. 3 decide to jump. How many frogs remain?
Answer? 5, because 3 have only decided to jump. They have not actually jumped yet.
A decision is only as valuable as your ability to act on it.
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Scarcity..
creates demand.
Do things that are scarce and you’ll never be out of job. Build a set of unique skills that are inherent to you. Blend them together to create something that only YOU can do.
If you want to be valued, be scarce.
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Trying to Catch Two Monkeys
If you try to catch two monkeys at the same time, you’ll miss both.
If you are thinking about meeting a friend while studying, you are neither meeting the friend, nor studying. You are missing out on both.
Do one thing at a time, and do it well. Multi-tasking is a myth.
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